Paul writes, ‘Do you think I make my plans carelessly? Do you think I am like people of the world who say “Yes” when they really mean “No”? As surely as God is faithful, our word to you does not waver’ (vv.17-18 NLT). Paul had learned to set boundaries on his relationships, and you must do the same. A wise man said, ‘Never complain about what you permit.’ Unless you set boundaries, you have no right to complain about people who take advantage of you and waste your time. ‘Jesus…does not waver between “Yes” and “No”…he always does what he says’ (v. 19 NLT). And as His follower, you must learn when it’s appropriate to say yes and when it’s appropriate to say no. When people back you into a corner, confront them promptly, privately, and personally. And if they won’t listen, take someone with you. And if they won’t listen to both of you, take it to the church leadership (see Matthew 18:15-17). Be clear about what you will and won’t tolerate. In the words of the country song, ‘You’ve got to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything.’ Get comfortable voicing your wishes and preferences without fear of rejection and alienation. Make this your prayer today: ‘Lord, let me serve and give to others from a pure heart rather than a need for love and acceptance. On the authority of Your Word, I command the spirit of fear that has prevented me from setting healthy boundaries to leave now. I place my trust in You. I will not fear what people can do to me (see Psalm 56:11). In Jesus’ name. Amen.’
